I Want To Know Why... I Can Not
Get Over My Ex Boyfriend So Badly. He Wasn't The Right Kind Of Guy For Me Any Way...
Is It Because He Was What I Couldn't Have...
That Why I Can Not Get Over
Him! A lot of
people believe turning off your feelings for a person you once were involved in a romantic relationship with, or even hating
them is a way to show that
are "over" the person.
But, I Believe The Exact Opposite Is
When you are completely "over" a person, you really
wish them nothing but the best, and you are totally detached
emotionally from how they act or react.
I know what your talking about completely, we dated for a while and the things he would tell me
were irresistible... I keep looking at his pictures over and over.
And I listen to his voice
clips and watch the videos he made for me and I know we are as perfect as perfect can
So I kept trying to talk to him and he full out gave me
the silent treatment.
I didn't know, one person could have such a
powerful grip on me and I was so down-in-the-dumps practically wasting away.
Forgive your Ex, no matter what they
did or didn't do. Unfortunately, it may not be enough at this point to say, "I forgive my ex." And leave it at
has little to do with words, and more to do with action.
Before proceeding with this step...
I recommend reading up on the topic of forgiveness, & reading heroic stories about
the power of forgiveness.
This Step is often tricky,
because if you master each step up to this point, your Ex may very well want to
At the very least, your Ex will begin responding to the
kindness you send their way in a positive
But regardless if you want to get back together with
your Ex, just be friends, or just get over the obsessive thinking remember your sole
purpose is to realize who you are, restore your sense of balance, and reclaim your personal
If you do all of this
work just to manipulate your Ex into responding the way you want them to, it may work for a very short period of
But I guarantee your Ex will pick up on the fact that
your intentions are not genuine, and you will lose your personal power.
Not only that, but when
you genuinely become who you are, you attract the right kind of people to your
life. And maybe your Ex is not the person you are meant to
Plus the only way you will know if you are meant
to be with your Ex or anyone else is if you are genuinely who you are.
hurt and anger is overwhelming, distance yourself from your Ex
If you go deeper, you
will realize your Ex may also be a very hurt and
person... even if they outwardly seem very hostile, aggressive and manipulative.
You will find that there is a
part of you that realizes your Ex is just a human being, with their own
imperfections, weaknesses and short comings...
Of course, no matter what
happened to your Ex in their childhood or even in their
day to day life... it does not give them a reason to mistreat you.
But by being aware of the fact that your Ex has a
certain set of issues to deal with
on their own time, it will help you replace the hurt
and anger you feel with compassion and understanding.
If a person
has an experience that is physically, mentally or emotionally traumatic, the mind deals with the
situation in one of several different ways.
Some people abuse alcohol, food, drugs or
other substances to numb the feelings they have inside.
Others mourn for a short
period of time, restore their faith, balance and sanity, and some how miraculously move
But for the rest of Us! left
over, usually those who are very analytical and logical, have trouble processing
deeply troubling situations... So we replay the painful situation over and over
again in our minds, searching for an answer.
But the problem is, the answer cannot be found in the rational
because the problem is on an emotional
Therefore, the solution has to
come from the heart, which needs to be healed and restored, Plus it needs to end obsessive thinking about Your Ex
Boyfriend or Partner.
Trust me, I know, what your ex
did to you was horrible and I could only imagine
how you must of felt...
It took me a
while to face the fact that we were over because in the back of my mind I wanted to believe that maybe, just maybe
he would come back.
Starting over is a pain in
the ass... And I wasn't ready to do that all over
I cried one good time...
I was intoxicated a bit, but it
seems like thats when reality paid me a visit. I cried... and cried... and cried..
I cried, That the guy that
I had dated years ago, who to this day is still trying to
convince me that he's the one for me, He was there when I needed a shoulder.
Still, I know that deep down inside I love
I still do and its not
take time... the only way to truly get over him is to
accept reality with an open mind and open heart.
You may not be together
now, and even though he hurt you deeply, you're only hurting yourself by dwelling in the
Time stops for no body
and although you maynot have him now, but
you will have the memories forever.
Occupy your time doing things that
you enjoy, and pretty soon, it'll be like riding a bike. You wont have to think so hard about trying to
get over him, before you realize that you already have.
People make mistakes every
single day, And very bad decisions and choices!
What matters most is that you don't shut your heart out to people who remind you of the past.
Here's another important
part... You need
to truly sit down and truthfully look back at the relationship and understand what you did to help with it's demise.
Don't beat yourself up
if you do something
that you wished you hadn't... Be kind...
yourself, forgiving & most of all! Remember
that being happily single is an